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     “There is no real happiness for those on the wrong side. The greatest pleasure in life is the security of the true side. You can vainly try to win over the world or you can nicely be over the world. Your task is to change your operating center from strained imagination to relaxed reality.”

Frequently Asked Questions

     Here are some frequently asked questions that we have heard over the years. The responses should help to give you a better understanding of these life-healing teachings. They can also clear up common confusions and misconceptions. Take them in with a receptive spirit and many mysteries will be dissolved in the light of higher understanding. The first five FAQs are brand new ones. (Last updated September 1, 2019)

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    Question: One of your recent Secrets of Life Daily Quotes emphasized that one roadblock on the way to real understanding is a false hope in the future. If I don’t have any future rewards to look forward to, what do I have?
    Answer: We’re always so busy anxiously trying to attain a certain elusive emotional state that we miss what we could have. We’re looking for a sense of security where it simply doesn’t exist — in continued self-affirmation. Vernon once said, “You’re nervously waiting on the dock for the treasure ship that will never come in.” False hope that something good will come your way is always going to alternate with bitterness that the anticipated sense of security hasn’t arrived. Let the shocking realization that you’re waiting in the wrong place lead to the spiritual aim of living in moment-to-moment awareness. That’s where enduring happiness resides.

    Question: I never really feel content, at least not for very long.
    Answer: That is the way everyone feels who is living from mental identities. It is the nature of the mind to wander. If we were not “living there,” we would not have a problem; we would not feel unsettled and unfulfilled. Some years ago, a very famous person in the media world was giving an interview. He candidly and accurately described his restlessness and lack of contentment, and ours: “No matter where I am, I want to be somewhere else.” Of course, there is no place to go except to stay right where we are and see that this restlessness is just another trick of the mind.

    Question: I have noticed with this work that many of the things I used to do for enjoyment aren’t bringing me much joy these days. Something is happening but I don’t know what. Can you help me understand?
    Answer: What you are experiencing is the growth of your true self at the expense of your false self. This is actually a very good thing and a very encouraging indicator of your progress along the spiritual path. You’re coming up against the realization that the old thrills that once amused and entertained you so much don’t offer any genuine rewards for your newly uncovered higher self.
         When you look back, you will remember that the old enjoyments didn’t last very long. There’s a vital clue right there. The false self is only temporarily enchanted with what it calls “thrilling” experiences. It gets bored or upset very easily and there goes the fun! Coming from a pseudo sense of enjoyment, any happiness you might have felt was destined to be short-lived, and ultimately unrewarding.
         Authentic joy comes when something right falls on your true self. As you immerse yourself in these higher teachings, you’ll be enriching the essential you, resulting in an experience of deep happiness, something you will know, and you will feel from yourself. And the higher you go, the freer you will be. You will get more lasting benefits out of attending a Vernon Howard class and learning about all of this than you can possibly imagine. When it comes to happiness, why choose something temporary and uninspiring when you can learn how to have something permanent that is really good for you?

    Question: Who was Vernon Howard?
    Answer: He was a man who lived untouched by the world. He taught that there is another way to live and that we, too, can learn to live untouched by all of the lunacy around us. He was invisible psychologically, no longer affected by any type of negativity. And though his body lived here, he resided in a happy place above this world.
         Vernon explained that we grew up in an environment from which we absorbed many things that were harmful to us without being aware of it. For example, people around us would get angry when we broke a dish or spilled the milk. They often got angry and soon we began to unconsciously imitate them. They got sad and cried whenever they didn’t get something they wanted and got worried and depressed about the future. And if they lost a job or some money, they felt really bad. “So, it’s a sad, lost, desperate world because we don’t know any other way to behave,” Vernon explained.
         He also told us that there’s a solution and gave us bright new answers to old, tired problems. These answers can heal us if we will apply them to our lives. These miraculous teachings show us how to uncover the blockages and get rid of secret heartaches we don’t tell anyone about. We can learn to put ourselves in harmony with spiritual, cosmic laws and live where pain and suffering are impossible to experience.
         Yes, we can learn to live untouched by this world too. It can be done.

    Question: I feel I’ve left God out of my life. How can I correct this?
    With stubborn self-will, I believe I can handle my life. This arrogance blocks God’s help in my life. I’m actually a mental midget and an emotional wreck, but that’s really hard to admit! I meet events and I howl. Yet, I can learn from the shock of the storms and the howling reactions to prefer God’s goodness. The life I’m now choosing is not the life I really want because there is a Higher Choice. I can increase my spiritual memory to meet all events. I can step aside and let God handle the storm because in the absence of me everything can and will be handled perfectly.

    Question: It seems I only pray when I either want something to happen or when I want something to stop happening.
    Answer: A lot of what is called prayer has its base in prideful wishes that always include subtle elements of self-enhancement and self-glorification. This type of prayer is a request for what the “I” wants, for example, someone praying for material wealth or worldly attention or praise. God does not hear this type of prayer.

    Question: Then when does God hear my prayers?
    Answer: Revelations often come to us by recognizing what does not work. You must study the manifestations of wrong prayer before real prayer can come into the picture. To ask for help purely means many things. It means that the appeal doesn’t come from an image of being pious or religious or spiritual or from a desperate wish that circumstances were different. Most of all though, it means you know in a deeper sense that nothing you have relied on has worked and that you can no longer continue to try to do it for yourself. Something has to be invited into your inner life that is separate from the horizontal level of thought. You can extend this invitation any time, any place. The realization must come that help from a higher source can’t be provided by colliding and confused thoughts. See, it truly always comes back to knowing all about your human nature and when that has been replaced by what Vernon calls the ‘star self,’ your higher life itself will be the perfect prayer.

    Question: This idea of fear and refusal to investigate what is really going on interests me.
    Vernon said in a talk (MP3 CD Vol. 8-17) that our self-deception is “voluntary.” Look at your reaction sometime when some underlying hostility of yours is exposed. You do not want to see it, let alone have other people know about it. That’s why these teachings and the New Life classes are a safe haven to learn what we must in order to change. For while they reveal the hidden secrets of human nature and our own wrongness, they also provide the healing facts necessary to keep going forward in the quest for the higher life.

    Question: Wow, I’ve just had a revelation of how much resistance I have to what this work is telling me!
    Answer: The importance of receptivity cannot be overestimated. It must suddenly strike us that to welcome learning about the cunning tricks and interference of the belligerent, hostile nature is what frees us from it. It was once asked what our effort in this work must be and Vernon said your entire effort to wake up is receptivity to what you are hearing.

    Question: I’ve recently come into these studies and it makes me nervous when you say I must disappear from my own life. What does that mean?
    Think of getting outside of yourself as a release into open spaces that are not tight, cramped or constrained in any way. Just now, our spirits are confined by being in and of this world. Through society’s influence and through association with every human being we’ve ever met, we operate from the strange belief that this limitation is normal and natural. It is not! We were not meant to suffer from insecurity, dread and doubt but we were meant to choose to be animated and guided by the free life of the source that created us. The only way this can happen is for the old nature to be transcended, to disappear.

    Question: How do people get mixed up in trying to understand these higher truths?
    Some take them as similar or identical to worldly advice. Take the man or woman who confuses monetary prosperity with spiritual success and security. Vernon assures us you can have little of what this society calls success and be completely victorious in the spiritual realm. A recent ‘Secrets of Life’ quote said, “Practice at placing the spiritual before the material.” It can be a surprisingly healthy shock to realize how little we do this. However, the extent to which we learn to value the invisible over the visible world determines the quality of our inner life. Many people say they want to change themselves but few really mean it. Be one of the few.

    Question: I’ve noticed I often seem to be moving along OK through life, but then I feel the pressure and frustration building. How can I stop this strain before the inevitable explosion or lashing out, which I’ve done so many times in my life?
    Realize that you’re unnecessarily living from a wrong part of yourself. That wrong part is always wrapped up with useless and repetitive thought. It then very quickly welcomes its low buddies — negative emotions. Break the spell! Relax from unnecessary thought. Be as fierce as you can, inwardly, against these unwanted invaders. Vernon told us that who we really are has no need to be worried or frustrated over anything whatsoever.

    Question: How can I know this center within?
    It is already there but must be uncovered and activated, in part by the honest admission that we have never really known how to deliver ourselves from inner pain and negativity. Troubled states may go away temporarily but always come back to reassert themselves, don’t they? With that realization can come the certainty that only something else, something not part of the habitual psychic system, can rescue us. So instead of spending the day looking for comfort and affirmation where it cannot be found, we can choose to direct our considerable energies toward connecting with what is above this warring world.

    Question: It’s hard to understand that there’s only one solution. Why can’t I just work on the specific areas where I see there’s an issue?
    Because then you’ll just be caught in the endless trap of solving the “next” difficulty, then the next and on and on. The mental self doesn’t want salvation. You call it intelligence but it’s really ignorance that insists it knows what should be done about all these difficulties and heartaches. Deep down though, something in you knows all solutions on that level have always failed and will always fail. “You” can’t do it, but God can!

    Question: Why do we need spiritual help?
    Answer: Wherever we go we take our whole world with us. We have settled in troubled lands. There is an urgent need to refresh, reboot and remember that Now is always New. A new nature is necessary.
         The answer to every problem is a spiritual one. There is no separate answer to the financial problem, the relationship trouble, the work difficulty, the anger problem. The answer to every problem resides in a different place, on a different level than the problem itself.

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