March Monthly Lessons

From Vernon Howard Classes

     Here is a wonderful opportunity to take these powerful truths and put them to use in your daily life. The goal is self-enrichment and the result is new life-command. Remember, the knowledge in these lessons already exists in your higher nature. You need only ascend to the location within yourself. Other people have understood them and so can you.

Never Blame Anyone

     You’re putting the cause of your grief outside of yourself when it’s really in you!
     You look out at the world with fear. “Don’t hurt me, please. Don’t hurt me again.” And you think if you fight hard enough and long enough that the enemy will be defeated. You yourself are imitating the existence and the ferocity of the enemy with your own fighting.
     Stop fighting. Stop fighting! Stop fighting to change the world.
     How much easier it is to point the finger at someone else, to accuse the spouse, to accuse the other country, to accuse that law on the books, to accuse the neighbor down the street.
     How gratifying to sick egotism to look out and say, “There is the cause of my grief.”
     How cowardly can you get? And you had better stop it!
     I’ve described it. Now you’ve got to take action on what I’m talking about. You’ve wasted enough of your life already. Start tonight to start saving your life.
     So, a sense of urgency comes by seeing the actual predicament that you are in.
     Listen to me. Everything depends on you looking within and seeing the horror of it all.
     “My mind drives me crazy.”
     “My emotions keep me awake at night.”
     “I’m afraid of people and places and things.”
     “I’m not in charge of myself.”
     “I’m a lost soul!”
     You’re outnumbered by a million to one enemies, all because you don’t want to listen to the facts about you, so that higher facts can save you from your present way of thinking.
     When your mind is guided by something higher than your own egotism, then it becomes quite another thing.
     So, are you ready to see the chaotic mess inside yourself, and don’t blame mama and papa. Don’t blame the fact they flunked you in school three times in a row. (Laughter) Why didn’t you pay attention to the teacher?
     I challenge you, I dare you, I invite you to — now listen, this is pretty big stuff:  Never, ever again blame anyone or anything again, not once, about your life. Don’t blame someone else for your unhappiness, never again in the smallest way.
     I don’t care how cruel that man was, ladies. I don’t care how awful that woman was, gentlemen. I’m asking you to stop being a little tiny crybaby and start to grow up. And what a marvelous place to start — to never again blame anyone, because when you blame someone, you’re putting the cause of your grief outside of yourself onto them when it’s really in you!
     What brought you into contact with that terrible person to begin with? What kept you living in that condition anyway?
     You see? You choose your own destiny. You really do.